Tuesday, August 22, 2006

How Would You Respond To This?

I need your help with something. How would you tactfully respond to the following questions? Please post your response on this site.

How would you respond if your parents refused to remember your baby's name, birth date or anniversaries?

What would you say if other people referred to you as "childless" because you have no living children?

Would you say anything if family members or strangers implied your baby's death was your fault? For example, when they say: "I told you to take it easy." "Maybe you should have waited before trying again." Or even, "What did you eat/do/not do?

Look forward to hearing from you!

3 comments:

Sealka said...

I just wanted to say that I am SO sorry for your losses. My heart goes out to you.

Thank you for starting this blog.

Sharee said...

Thank you Brooke ... It's comforting to know we aren't alone during times like these.

Catherine said...

How would you respond if your parents refused to remember your baby's name, birth date or anniversaries?

I would probably just cry about it in private. My parents have done ok so far remembering Alex and Travis.

What would you say if other people referred to you as "childless" because you have no living children?

This is a tough one, because I do have a living child, so I don't know the additional issue of having no living children. If it were me, I would probably just let it go and cry about it in private. But again, I don't like confrontation so that would be my choice.

Would you say anything if family members or strangers implied your baby's death was your fault? For example, when they say: "I told you to take it easy." "Maybe you should have waited before trying again." Or even, "What did you eat/do/not do?

I would let them have it. I am not confrontational in person (online is easier since you don't have to face the person), but there is nothing more I hate worse than unfair judgment. I would confront them with the facts and try to make them understand how hurtful their comments are. A lot of times people say stupid things because they just don't know any better.